I don’t get it. Really. My morning has not been going very well, and things just keep getting worse. I understand that listening is a “skill,” but it’s not like I lose people’s interest early on or anything. For that to happen, they would have had to hear me in the first place. I do have a fairly quiet voice, but people either talk over me or it’s like I wasn’t even speaking. I was using that, but I try to tell people and they just ignore me. Oh yeah, I know, but I get a weird look and they keep on struggling instead of listening to me. I swear, at least half of my life has been those agonizing moments where you start talking but realize no one is listening so you finish your sentence to yourself and just put on one of those fake-a**, shy smiles while you slowly sink deeper into yourself and get that little, awful lump in your throat. I have cried myself to sleep more times in this week alone than I think I ever have in my entire life. I just want to be heard, but no one wants to listen. Mine’s not going so well obviously, but I hope you have a nice day/morning/night/whatever… 🙂
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You’re not alone, first. Don’t take it personally. A lot of people aren’t very interested in other people unless they’re famous and or possible sexual partner. And yes learn to speak up. Learn to shout. Make your voice heard! 🙂
The feels. I can’t stand that. I’ve learned becoming passive aggressive during those moments is the best way to make people think twice about ignoring you though. Once hit a person with this. “Oh I guess what I was saying isn’t worth your time, my apologies, I guess I’ll just talk to the fucking wall”
But sometimes what a person says isn’t very interesting. I was married to someone who could talk 40 minutes without anyone getting a word in. You would have to physically touch her to get her to pause. Also, maybe the above poster is annoying with her barely audible speech. If I constantly have to ask a person “What?” “Excuse me?” I’m going to get frustrated and eventually lose interest in ANYTHING she says.