I've been with the same guy for several years even after losing every romantic feeling I have for him. He was totally emotionally disconnected from me for a long time; to cope, I eventually disconnected from him in turn. But I stayed with him, simply because I was afraid I wouldn't find anyone better. Said boyfriend is already NOT a good father figure to my daughter from a previous relationship, and everyone I know says that I've been settling on this guy. I guess I feel so badly about myself that I never thought anyone better would have me, you know? Who cares if my boyfriend is fat, lazy, and honestly kinda smells bad? He loves me and that's all that matters, I told myself. He'll stay with me.
Unfortunately, I've now met & become very good friends with someone about a million better, and he is definitely at least sort of interested in me. This is a guy with a real decent-paying career-related job, no grime under his fingernails, close ties to his family, and similar interests to me. It's opened my eyes to the fact that, yes, there ARE better men out there, and I'm questioning what I've been doing for the last 3 years staying with this guy who I haven't had romantic feelings for in a long time.
My new guy friend and I flirt ALOT. We can talk for hours on end about nothing. We don't agree on everything, but we agree on everything big & important. I think he's adorable and he thinks I'm beautiful. But we both watch our boundaries because he knows I'm not single.
My boyfriend and I never had this kind of connection. But he's been around since my daughter was 6 months old. She even calls him "daddy" so I have no idea what to do.
