I wish I could travel back in time to break up my husband and his ex wife. His kids (grown adults now) have so many issues and refuse to do anything with themselves. We’ve given up almost everything trying to keep them from f****** up, and I am so tired of it. I want my house, my life, and my daughters life back. But I don’t want to say anything because it’s his children and I don’t want to seem like the controlling new wife.
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Hi,
It seems to me your “combined” kids have issues and you have your plate full, trying to cope with it all.
I suggest you have your doctor put you on anti depressant tablets for the time being and when they kick in, after 3 weeks or so, you will start to feel a lot better, mentally, emotionally and without any stress and then you can reconsider your options and put things in place towards your new husband, your daughter and your own life style, without the influence of his kids fucking things up for you both, all of the time.
If ever you want to get off anti depressants, you can’t go cold turkey.
you must reduce the tablet(s) by 1/4 a tablet each week until you are off them completely, there is no other way.
By the same token, you might enjoy the security and comfort the tablets give you, while they hold your emotions in check and you might find staying on them, might be better for you in the long run.
By the same token, it seems to me his kids are playing you both to get the most out of you, because you are both letting them do whatever they want and this is no solution to a problem which will only get worse for both of you, as they get older and entrenched in their behaviour, to you all.
If they have not left home, perhaps you should give them 6 months to make good and move on with their lives, away from you and yours.
It seem to me you have taken on much more than you expected and it has all come home to roost.
Hope I have been able to give you a different perspective and if you want to talk things over with me, here, in more detail, perhaps I can suggest ways and means to improve things all round.
I can only try – and for you, it might be nice to talk with me in total anonymity, if we can address pertinent issues together.
For your information, I live thousands of miles away from you, in a different time zone and there is simply no way we can ever meet, in real time, which might bring you some security and peace.
Best Wishes………….
Well if you think this talking to yourself will work out all these frustrated thoughts, by all means please take your medication.. or don’t but don’t try an play people using the same writing style it’s a lame tactic that old insecure woman do. Save it for poetry class an stop downing your own kin. Wether they are your biological children or not they don’t deserve what you’ve been doing here online. Nobody does but look at you go.. destroying life before they can thrive. When your time comes you’ll meet your maker and be judged for all you have done in this life. Maybe hell is real.. maybe you’ll come back as a zebra, while those tuff thick skin kids you hate so much will be the Lions, ripping chunk’s out of you like you’ve tried to do throughout their life’s. When they’re all grown up you think your hubby will put up with this.. no man wants to come home to crazy after a long day at work.