My boyfriend and I are in a wonderful, healthy relationship. Our communication is great and we have thorough and thoughtful discussions about issues (usually dealing with ourselves and our insecurities). I’m happy that we are comfortable to talk about our problems together, but I always have some lingering guilt afterward. Sometimes the talks can be painful for both of us, and I hate the feeling that I have caused him any discomfort and worry. I guess another part of this is the fear that he will leave me if any problem comes up (even though I know he wouldn’t). This is how my ex basically broke up with me so I’m pretty sure that’s the root of my insecurity. Then I get angry at myself for allowing this a****** who isn’t even in my life anymore affect me. I just hope that as our relationship grows, these little intrusive thoughts and insecurities dissipate.
