I’m in a loving relationship of 4 and a half years. I’m also in love with someone else, an old boyfriend I’ve known for years. He lives in a different city, which means he’s not really a threat to the relationship and that’s how I justify staying in contact with him, flirting etc. I just miss him so much. I want to look after him and make him happy but I can’t. I feel exactly the same about them both. Sometimes I just don’t know how to deal with the pain of knowing I can’t make him feel loved. What do you do with all those feelings when they can’t go anywhere?

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