I allowed a family member to move in with us. She is making our lives miserable in ways that we can’t live with. She wants to be independent [not be parented] yet she behaves like a teenager, she is in her mid 20’s. She is respectful to our face, she isn’t abiding by our house rules, we don’t have many rules here bc we don’t have kids and we keep to ourselves. Example, exhaust fan needs to be on when a shower is being taken, she doesn’t do it and says she forgot, time and time again. It will cause mold and other damage, we didn’t ask for a damage deposit- big mistake on our behalf. Other basic/common sense rules are broken as well. All of our few rules were made clear from the start, she agreed, and its a verbal agreement. We decided to set a date for her to move out by which will be discussed and set by this weekend.

Now we are not sure how to approach it. I want to avoid giving reasons and having it turn into drama. On the other hand, its not cool to sit her down and happily set a date without giving her any feedback. I am so unhappy since she has been here, its ruining what should have been a good thing. She will twist words to her benefit, will throw us under the bus if it can save her b***, i never seen this side of her before. Please help us, we don’t know where to start.