My husband’s aunt is ruining our relationship, and with it, my sanity. She takes being a controlling b**** to an all-time low he just rolls over and lets her do it. For example, I’m 5 mos pregnant with our first child and she referred to our baby as a “mess” and a “problem.” She also told him he needs to get a vasectomy. At 26 years old! I can’t believe anyone can be that offensive and get away with it. My husband just sat there in silence. She also rips into my a** about wanting to work full time after having a child. I get that her generation was different but she goes so far as to accuse me of not caring about my kid (by the way, that’s MY kid, not HERS). She wants to buy ALL the baby clothes, furniture, etc. While this might seem innocent on the surface, if you’re around long enough you know she just does that s*** to rope people into dependency on her and then uses her “help” to control them. She also had a huge fit when we mentioned that we might want to move someplace cheaper next year. She tried to thinly coat it in the guise of “advice”- “I know it’s your choice and all but if it were me I WOULD NEVER EVEN THINK ABOUT BRINGING A BABY UP IN SOME RIFF-RAFF SHITHOLE NEIGHBORHOOD LIKE THAT. THAT IS JUST A TERRIBLE IDEA. WHY WOULD YOU EVER EVEN CONSIDER THAT. YOU CANNOT BE SERIOUS….but that’s just my opinion, teehee!”Oh, and we also got into it because she keeps trying to make me tell her exactly how much money I make every month, which I find invasive, inappropriate, and rude. How much I make is absolutely none of her business. She likes to excuse herself a lot with “I know it’s not my place to b*** in and get involved in your business BUT I’m getting involved in it.” Sometimes I just sit there thinking, is she even f****** serious right now? My husbands whole relationship with her is totally sick and dependent too. I literally yell at him to grow some balls and stop letting her talk to me that way and he just makes up lame excuses and tells me I’m taking it the wrong way. F*** that! I don
t give a damn how she means it; it’s still bitchy and manipulative! He has major mommy issues and basically cast her in the mother role at some point- whatever, we’ve all got something. But I’m sick of getting trampled by him putting her on a pedestal. She’s basically brainwashed him into thinking he’s too mentally impaired to function in the world (which is completely ridiculous. all he has is ADHD.) I need him to help out supporting the family but he won’t work because his aunt has manipulated him into thinking he can’t do anything for himself. So now I get to work 2 jobs while pregnant and it’s pretty much all her fault. And then she wants to throw a f****** tantrum about my house being messy. Well, who the hell do you think is gonna clean it, you stupid b****? My husband is “disabled” and I work around the clock because of the s*** you make up and tell him! I know it sounds awful but I’m kinda glad she’s old and isn’t gonna be around forever.