I’m married and had a brief affair – mostly emotional, with my wife’s high school friend. It didn’t last long.. maybe a couple months we saw each other a couple times. No s**.. just some kissing and a date or two.

She suddenly gave me the cold shoulder.. I think out of guilt. I fell apart.. It was terrible.. I got to where I was surviving, a year passed, and I’m focusing a little more on my wife…

But – deep down I still think about this woman every day. I hadn’t even heard from her in many months.. and now she has a boyfriend and wants to get together with us because she happens to be in town.. I’m so mad – but I know the right thing to do is to play it cool and try to be friends with her and her new guy.. but I’m jealous.. and hoping that somehow he’s not better than me in ways that make me feel inferior..

The whole situation s****.. you know she came on to me first.. I took it really slow.. was shocked and flattered that she was even interested.. and now here I am wishing it could be and she’s gone.. I wonder if she’s trying to make me jealous, or if she’s just trying to patch up her friendship with her friend and close the chapter.. and wants to stop hiding her boyfriend from us.. so this is the big reveal to tie off loose ends with me and kill off the last bit of guilt.

I just have to get this off my chest.. this seems like a good place to do it.

I know – I’m married – I shouldn’t be thinking like this..

What do you all think? Should I still tell her how I feel, or just let her go for good and focus on my marriage? Seriously – I think about her every single day.. I didn’t ask for this.