Every guy I have gotten involved with turned out to be a monster. As a feminist, I told everyone that I blamed the man for every break-up. I blamed the man who abused me and left me in bruises, the man who cheated, the man who wouldn’t commit, etc. But every time the relationship ends, I secretly think it was just me that made him act that way. If I was a better person or a better girlfriend, then he wouldn’t have done those things to me. I think I deserved what I got.