I’m not happy anymore in my relationship… I’ve been with this guy for over 4 years and I still love him, but I’m unhappy. We live together, we’ve talked about getting married on and off throughout the last year or so, and I really like his family. But I’m not attracted to him anymore and he pays more attention to his video games and other friends than he does to me. I try to talk to him about how I feel, but unless I say something that scares him into thinking we might break up, he doesn’t seem to care. He shuts down when I talk to him about things he doesn’t want to hear, and I can’t even believe him when he apologizes anymore because he says sorry all the time but nothing ever changes. It’s almost like it’s just an automatic response now to shut me up so he doesn’t have to deal with what I’m saying. On the rare occasions that something actually does get through to him, and he makes changes to make the relationship better, they last maybe a month or two before things are back to the way they were. I do love him, and I’d like to spend my life with him, but the relationship going in the direction I’d like it to. This has been going on for at least a year or two now. I feel trapped, like I’m suffocating. I feel like I’m settling…I don’t want to hurt him by telling him so, but sometimes I think I’d be ok without him. I don’t want to break up but if we can’t fix this then I’m not sure what to do…