To the person with the messy breakup from a trans gal: I’m sorry to hear about that. It’s always painful when the people you care about are so deep into a negative spiral that they force themselves into a situation like that. I had an ex-friend who did that — they tried to push me away both because they thought I was too good for them and because they felt they had to protect themself from letdown. It hurts, and it’s always a messy situation. I know I fucked things up there. Sending love your way.