A few months ago, in order to spice up our s** lives, I persuaded my wife of four years to try swinging. I searched online and found an ordinary-looking couple I thought would suit us to begin with. We met, had dinner, went to a hotel, and swapped partners. I am a fit, fairly good-looking, well-endowed man. I was surprised and dismayed when the other man, who is older, and not as good looking, undressed. He was way larger than me, and for two hours I had to watch him work my wife into multiple fits, screams, and moans. Since this experience (which we have not repeated), I haven’t been able to look at my wife in the same way. He was able to get my wife to do things, she wouldn’t do with me.

I cannot get that night out of my mind. It’s affecting my work and ability to be happy. Sometimes I feel I could just punch my wife in the face. When we talk about the situation I ask her “Why were you so into it?”….and her response is… “He really listened to my needs”. What the f*** does that even mean? How does another man know what your needs are???? We’ve been married for 4 years and I have never seen you c** or f*** like that.The few friends I have confided in about this say “ possibly your wife was putting on something of a show just to yank your chain”. I don’t know what to think any more. I pay all the bills, I work long hours and all I wanted to do was spice up our s** life a bit, and she ruined it. I was even generous enough to find someone for her but she had to take it overboard, she literally forgot I was in the room. She embarrassed and humiliated me, and I cannot stand to be around her anymore, why did she have to enjoy the swap so much? Like f***! I asked her have I ever made her c** and squirt like that and she responded “No you have not? You don’t last as long or do you have the girth to hit certain spots consistently”. How do you tell your husband that with a straight face, she has no respect for me or my manhood. I am not a women but I know for someone to reach an intense o***** they have to want too, they have to be really into the person and this guy did not look better than me. I cannot see how I could possibly be content in my marriage ever again.

Women are so complicated, the same girls in a relationship for 5 + years and breakup or divorce and be married or engaged to a new guy within a year. Saying he listen to my needs?? B*******, what is a female’s needs? Men have to work to provide a lifestyle for women while they f*** up all their money getting their hair and makeup done and other dumb random s*** for the house, and I am busy trying to make sure all the bills are paid on time.

All I want is an apology and reassurance in the relationship, and a real explanation about that crazy experience.