you should see the s*** mess my mother has made of things. She has no idea of what she is doing. For the last 10 years and more the last 2-5 years she is getting stupidier and dumb and can’t make personal decisions about maintaining things. she can only make personal choices about what rubbish she wants to buy that gets wasted and never worn. she has made little men of her 2 daughters and her husband because she is a little man deep down. she never wanted anything good for me. she always puts me down and my goals or dreams as if selfish or way too much expectation. but then she said “I wish someone would buy me a new house” isn’t that expecting too much? her physical and verbal and emotional violence on me has been so incredible that a little old woman could still intimidate me in my 40s and I am afraid of her. she wouldn’t let me sleep where I wanted to and she is so controlling in a unnatural way. The mess she makes and the waste is not funny. Like next xmas I will not be spending on near the food because she wastes a lot with her laziness. all I can say mother is life is gonna flog you back.