To the girl in love with her bestie. The only thing that really kills a crush is distance & forgetting about them entirely.

Just think of the crushers you had when you were younger. Most of the reason why you’re over them is bc they’ve gone to other schools & you likely forgot about them long enough for new crushes to develope.

Sticking around a guy you like isn’t going to make you not like them anymore. Let’s be real.

It’s just biology. You’re likely more attracted to his pheromones then him. I imagine you spend quite a bit of time in close proximity to him? Snap out of it! Lol.

Plus, the longer you stick around, he’ll just go on to have other girlfriends that you get to hear lots about & pretend to be happy for. You’ll feel the guilt for secretly liking him, and may end up doing him a disservice if he ever asks for you advice on other girls. Or worst- you may just end up just liking him even MORE than you do now if you stick around.

It’s best to BE ABSOLUTELY SURE you know everything about him & really understand if you truly want to be with him …or if it’s just a crush that can go away with a little distance, time & new love interest.

I’ve had crushes on several of my guy friends. They’re all fine as hell I’d very much so love to f*** the s*** out of each & every one of them BUT ..that’s just lust. And I believe I can built the best friendship with whoever my spouse will be.

If it’s love for you, then you need to talk to him. See where that can go. Why hold it in over a friendship? That’s so cliche. If he’s not feeling you the way, you’re feeling him -yea, it will change your friendship or end it. And with distance you’ll get over it.

That’s life, but sitting there pretending your feelings are going to just go away, while he smiles that beautiful smile in your face all day, is silly.