I found out two weeks ago my husband of 23 years has had a “friendship” with a women for the last 14 years. They met online in a card game and chatted, then they started talking on the phone and texting. She lives in another state so they have never met. This past year it has only been a weekly phone call in the morning when he is driving to work. He never told me about her, lied to me when I asked about the evidence of her I saw at different times (phone records, deleted texts, etc) and lied to me when I confronted him.
He finally confessed and we have spent the past couple of weeks trying to rediscover if we can stay together. We have 4 grown children, 3 grandchildren and have been having the time of our lives for the past couple of years since we became empty-nesters. I can in some ways understand how it started as a friendship a long time ago, but I can’t understand how he let it keep going and kept lying to me all these years. I’m devastated when I think about it but I don’t want to give up my whole life and start all over again. I never suspected him because I thought he was the most honest and respectable man I have ever known. I haven’t told anyone because there is no one I know that wouldn’t be extremely hurt to know about this.
It hurts so much … my mind is in a haze … I can’t sleep unless I drink … it is hard to go on …
I’m Devastated …
