When I was younger a girl I was interested in chose another guy over me. He was a fat a****** who didn’t really care about her, and has only gotten worse in his worldview since then. He’s going nowhere in life and all he does is drink and smoke in his apartment. Just being around him makes me depressed. I wasn’t a perfect specimen by any means, but I was and am miles ahead of what he is. The reality of the situation is that she wasn’t a quality person at all, and I dodged a major bullet there. But it still rocked my self confidence, and now I feel like any situation where it’s between me and another guy, I’ll end up losing.