lily- if you’re seeing improvement in what she’s doing take your time. this is a process that neither of you should rush. you both signed up for this all of the good and bad and the most important thing to do with this is communicate about it. if she goes back to no effort leave it alone and it’s not for you two. if she or you both are still seeming off maybe check up on her and put aside what she could be doing but what she’s feeling too. everyone has feelings in this and it is mutual. talk things out and don’t rush. don’t give up too easily because it’s difficult. it’s going to be like that and right now it may not feel like it’s worth it but when you are back to how you were and better you will thank everything that happened. but make sure she’s working for you. if not she’ll realize she needs to step up