I am attracted to a blonde secretary at work and have been for 13 years now. She is older than me but more physically, emotionally, and spiritually beautiful than women many years younger than her. I am married and struggle to not think about her but I regularly fail and find myself wanting, desiring her more than my wife of 14 years. I know it is wrong but despite my efforts I can’t get her out of my mind. What do I do!?