A thought: Constant messaging from black men that black women don’t do “as much” for black men, and don’t “treat black men the way they deserve to be treated”. Why hasn’t anyone, including black women, come to the conclusion that perhaps if they are unwilling to do what it takes, that maybe it’s not something they truly WANT or feel passionate about.

Think of it this way.
a woman should know that if a man doesn’t take her out, doesn’t communicate, but still engages in s** with her that he DOES NOT WANT her.
similarly, a woman unwilling to check off all your items, may not be seriously committed to being with you.

just a thought. for kicks.