I am genuinely disturbed at how Borderline Personality Disorder and Pathological Demand Avoidance are becoming more normalised these days. When will people realise that

A) Being harsh against Borderliners is NOT, never has been and never will be ableist

B) Meme culture validates and encourages toxic traits that both conditions have

C) Pathological Demand Avoidance is actually much more like a personality disorder than a part of the autism spectrum and needs to be treated as such, as well as renamed to Demand Avoidant Personality Disorder

D) Autism doesn’t make children choose to be violent to family members or pets or deliberately not wash for weeks at a time; personality disorders do that. See Point C above

E) Both conditions are dangerous for everyone around them?

F) Borderliners in particular are a lost cause

The only reason I would ever disown a child is if they had a personality disorder that meant everyone else around them was in danger. Demand Avoidant Personality Disorder , Narcissistic Personality Disorder, psychopathy, sociopathy… I would quite happily kill the child myself if that happened. And if they turned out to be a Borderliner I would quite likely do the same.

One Borderliner is more than enough in anyone’s lives. I would be horrified if I discovered that I was currently associating with anyone else other than the one I know about

I am speaking as an autistic person. Autism is still stigmatised far more than BPD or DAPD and yet is actually much less dangerous to society