So, I am a 25yo and i have only had s** early this year for the first time. I was ready and the guy was really gentle and it didnt hurt or anything but it didnt feel good either, not even like there was a build up that could lead to an o*****. But when i m********* by myself i know how to get myself there you know so its no problem. I know that an o***** is not like the only point to intimacy but still i was wondering if i have been doing smthg wrong to just be so indifferent when doing it with someone else.. is there smthg wrong with me ?
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You need to let him know what is working and what is not. Show him what you can. Show him how you masturbate. Have fun and don’t worry about him taking offense to it. I think most guys want to get their lady off as a part of their pride and honestly for me it is half the pleasure of sex anyway. Stay safe out there too!
Have you tried rubbing your clit during intercourse? That could be the answer if you’re not making good pelvic contact.
I agree with posts above me, and I and my wife were virgins on our wedding night, btw. And we married, pretty “old” too! First, I want to say – good for you, for masturbating! Because my wife never had even had an orgasm, never masturbated! OMG – yeah, I know, very hard for me, for any guy, to understand that! But I loved that, btw. But still. Offered a bit of a challenge. If you can show him what you like, OMG, that would be great. Guys need to see, graphically, exactly what you’re talking about, what you like. Sure, some guys don’t care, I admit, but others, are very caring and will do anything you ask, just show them! I’ve had to guess my way around, and yeah, finally, from what I’ve read, and seen in videos, well, all is well.
If I had to give any advice, and it’s what I’d give to myself and my wife still today – show your partner what you like! It’s as simple as that. But as a recently married couple, I’d still like more feedback from her. Like things like “do you it when I go back and forth like this, or up and down like this, or really fast like this, or press hard and slow like this?” and the answer is always “yes” – well, sorry but seems like I’m not being given much direction! And honestly, might sound crude but… I’d gladly play around with her anus, but fear I could horrify her if I touched her there! I wish there were a bit more experimentation in our sex life – but that said – I’m in love and happy as can be. All in time. I’m not complaining, I’m just saying things take time, probably.