I went and visited a friend 8 years ago. We hung out with his gf and were drinking earlier that day. He tells me that he knows this girl that wants to meet me and she’s on birth control and him and his gf invite her over. This girl keeps telling me she’s on birth control and can’t get pregnant. Later that night, my friend is being an a-hole to everyone at the house and keeps pressuring me and the girl to hook up. My friend’s gf finally makes him go to bed. After they are in bed in their bedroom, im in the kitchen with the girl and she invites me into the spare room and initiates oral s** and then we had consensual s**. Afterwards she asks me a question that lead me to believe that she was not on birth control as she claimed. I no longer trusted her at this point and decided to leave. I went home and later texted my friend how things went that morning, all he said was “not good. LOL”. He didn’t elaborate. I assumed the girl was mad or hurt that I left and there might have been some argument. What was said? A few days later, he told me, referring to the area of town she lived in, “Don’t go over there”. Never elaborated on that either. A few weeks later when I saw my friend again, he told me she was mad she didn’t want a one night stand and kept asking for my number, which he did not give. Anyways, I visit him 8 years later and I find out he’s been lying to me about a bunch of things over the years. I question him about the girl. First, he tells me he doesn’t remember her, finally, he tells me that he never heard from her again after that morning. When I ask him the details of things he had told me about her later on, he tells me he never remembered telling me any of that, and that he “might” have just told me that so I wouldn’t worry. His gf said she did remember the girl, but didn’t remember anything bad, which goes 180 degrees against what I remember him telling me about ‘not going over there’. Why do I feel suicidal? Well, if he is hiding something from me and is not telling me, then it could be just about anything. I don’t have STD’s been tested. Not sure if I have a kid out there. Even worse, I often wonder if, try not to laugh at this, she made an “accusation” against me and took my DNA. I don’t know why she would, considering the fact that she initiated but I have absolutely no proof of any of this. My mind won’t stop trying to solve something that I may never solve. I did not know this woman and I thought my friend did, but I no longer trust him. I’m convinced if he’s been lying to me then he knows something but he isn’t going to tell me. It haunts me at night thinking of what could have happened, or did for that matter and I’m almost afraid to keep living my life if something resulting from our encounter ultimately was going to ruin it anyway. Please tell me what you would do if you were me. Thank you.

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