My fiance is a cross dressing bisexual male. I don’t mind it, in fact it makes me even more so s******* attracted to him. I get upset with him, however, because he and I both like lingerie but when we go out shopping for lingerie we are going to find him lingerie. Not us. Or me. But him. I find it selfish and rude.. now, he is aware of my rude angry attitude but does not know why i have the attitude. I don’t want to say anything to him because I don’t want to upset him and have him think I don’t want him wearing lingerie at all. I definitely want him to continue doing so, just would like to also get lingerie. (He also thinks I asked him to not wear fingernail polish on his fingers, all because I wasn’t in the mood at the time and was eating cereal.. he claimed that I like dudes. Like dude dudes and don’t have a feminine side… I love him for who he is feminine side male side it doesn’t matter to me I just love him as a whole. But I’m having a hard time with finding a way to bring up the lingerie selfishness hogging he does very close to every other day… How to I make him aware of the matter without him misunderstanding and thinking something horrible of me wrong with me or think I’m unaccepting of him..
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Just tell him. Focus on your feelings.
couples therapy
You ask what you can do and that is talk to him. You know what not talking to him has caused and that is misunderstanding and resentment on both sides. So all you have to do it talk to him. But not angrily. Tell him that you love shopping for lingerie with him but you also want to shop for it with him for yourself.
Talk to him, but treat yourself too! While my wife and I were shopping at VS recently for sexy panties for me, we were also looking for things she would feel sexy in. We want her to look good for a couple we’re seducing, but we also want them to understand just how I will be available to service everyone. She should feel sexy with any/all of us – but I need to be in the right lace if I am going to be able to properly take cock and strap-ons and dildos. You both have needs to feel sexy, and they may be different, but you have to share. I have suggested to my wife that we take things in together to try on…