To: My best friend’s dad has just died today. It is really hard to know how to be there for her.
Me: Just go around to where ever she is and spend time with her. You don’t have to say anything, just let her get her pain and anguish out, if she wants that, but play along with however she feels and whatever she wants to do with you.
Being there with her, is all it takes and in times of distress, that is your place and where you should be with her now.
Prettier: Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and they will decide for themselves if you are pretty enough for them.
There is no defined rule about being pretty, one man’s meat is another man’s poison (or whatever your interests lay) and you should let men choose how they see you and when they want to go out with you and be with you.
When you look in a mirror you see you, but you don’t see what prospective partners sees and their choices will be very different to your own conception of yourself.
The things to work on are: being able to talk about anything, without any embarrassment , dress neat and clean, put on a light perfume, show a bit (or a lot) of leg, work out what your most attractive parts are and emphasize them and most important of all be fun to be around, stand by your friends and NEVER, EVER, repeat ANYTHING to anyone that you heard in private – act like the 3 monkeys – See no evil, Speak no evil, Hear no evil and you will be just fine.
