Interesting article in Psychology Today about forgiveness “Unforgivable Hurt; What Do You Do Now?” and the idea (which I don’t agree with) that you need to forgive to be at peace has always rubbed me the wrong way because sometimes a person can’t just do that. Actual fogiveness really is not as simple as making a decision to forgive, that’s b*******, you do not do that. You need to feel it. Sometimes you never feel it either. People’s situations are all different it’s just depends of what when down the severity of the actions what it did to you, the big picture and could it have been avoided, intent. It depends. Is it unhealthy? Maybe. It could be.
But the solution is simple and makes sense and I have always agreed with it. I have never needed a psychologists opinion on this topic. It’s acceptance of the situation. Thats easy do if you give it time and space. You need 2 willing parties though. If you can’t to give someone, it’s not helping you to move on if they keep showing up in horrifying mind blowing ways through the years.
