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I am curious. Why do you refer to yourself as trans, why not just label as your true gender? You don’t go to a supermarket to buy fishbeef. Labeling as trans only leaves you further prone to be a victim of people who would use such status to denigrate your existence, similar to when people falsely refer to themselves as ‘black’ or ‘white’.

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  • I totally agree that self labeling accomplishes little and increases the abuse and bias. Neither gender identity nor sexual orientation should be the leading or primary facets of personality or how someone presents themselves to others. Now, that being said, I am someone who has ALWAYS known all my fundamental thought processes and behaviors have been those stereotypically considered female, and I am physically male. The tendency to lead with gender identity or sexual orientation is often driven by the frustrations and pain of being told or forced to bottle up all of it and act “normal”, and no one can bottle it up all the time, by the people who tell us to act “normal” or conform to expectations. LBGTQ people are often genuinely obnoxious about it…and I am one of them, saying that. But just because society expects it or tells us to meet their expectations just because they fear it or are disgusted by it or simply do not understand it does not make it magically go away.

    Anonymous February 16, 2019 6:29 pm Reply
    • It is so boring when stupid people post drivel in some vain attempt to seem intelligent or thoughtful or “deep.” You don’t get to tell people how to label themselves without coming off as bigoted, even if that wasn’t your ultimate intent. A simple “You go, girl!” will suffice.

      My advice? Keep it in your own head. Let others decide for themselves. Support them in whatever label they feel most comfortable using to describe themselves. You can call yourself a transsexual table lamp, and I won’t think any less of you unless you try to tell me that I shouldn’t refer to myself as an overstuffed leather recliner.

      Anonymous February 16, 2019 6:47 pm Reply
      • That you would think no less of someone for their identity is a reality sadly not reflected throughout the population. I can’t dress feminine where I live and even my own family would give me grief for it, which is to say nothing as against those who need to change over physically.

        Anonymous February 16, 2019 6:55 pm Reply
        • You have zero control over what others think or do. You can, however, decide what is right for you and live authentically. Perhaps if you do, then someone else might have the courage to do so. I’m just me. It’s just easier.

          Anonymous February 16, 2019 7:04 pm Reply
          • If you are suggesting I am at fault for ‘not living authentically’, I should point out that someone trans who I knew committed suicide here because of all the abuse she received from being her authentic self out and about in the city, and that I do not wish to suffer the same fate having had bowlfuls of abuse in various other ways through my life.

            Anonymous February 16, 2019 7:08 pm
  • I am suggesting that you and you alone are responsible for you own happiness (or misery). As am I. As is everyone else on this rock spinning through this universe. If you look to others for acceptance or validation, you will always find disappointment.

    Anonymous February 16, 2019 7:27 pm Reply
    • I have not made any statement to the contrary of this?

      Anonymous February 16, 2019 8:32 pm Reply
      • You inferred it.

        Anonymous February 16, 2019 9:16 pm Reply
        • You mean I implied it. Where?

          Anonymous February 16, 2019 9:38 pm Reply
          • Do you need lessons in reading comprehension as well?

            Anonymous February 16, 2019 11:32 pm
  • I cannot read your mind and I fail to see the reason for hostility in the face of a question. Which post are you referring to?

    Anonymous February 17, 2019 11:45 am Reply

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