I know this is a confession site and all but I need opinions on something since you all can comment. I am in high school and I like this guy and he likes me back as well. We haven’t made it official yet that we are kinda dating. To be honest, we don’t ourselves know for sure where we stand together as. Anyways, this Sunday, I went to a friend’s party and I hoped he got invited too, but to my disappointment, he wasn’t. He keeps on getting into fights with me and does the drama part for both of us(pretty sensitive guy). I so wish he had confessed to me already. So I was talking with my best friend(he’s a guy btw) and he came up with this idea that we should take pics of us together with his arm over my shoulder and upload the pic on Insta. We have loads of pics like this together so it wasn’t a big deal for both of us. We were pretty satisfied that my “to-be-bf” would see the pics and would get jealous. Turns out, as expected, he did see those pics and he is not only jealous but so freaking angry with me. He confronted me after school with it and said, “So you’ve been hugging around guys, I see.” I got irritated and replied, “Well, you for sure aren’t gonna tell me who to hug and whom not to.” He became angry af and has been avoiding me since. His friends are telling me to say sorry to him, but honestly, I haven’t done that grave a mistake. And if he is so bothered, why the fuck doesn’t he confess to me already?
So here are the things I need advice on:
1) Did I do wrong in the first place by trying to make him jealous?
2) Did I say anything wrong to him later on?
3) Should I just go and say sorry to him?
4) 1 year has passed and we don’t seem to be going anywhere, so should I just move on from this guy?
Any kind of help will be appreciated 🙂
All Comments
I say move on, if he is that possessive before he is even dating you (possessiveness while dating is also not okay!) its going to be a toxic relationship
I guess you are right … Thanks tho for bothering to reply!
You sound like a bit of a selfish person so I think you’d be doing him a favour. He can find someone more honest than you.
Haha, to be honest, who isn’t selfish in this world huh? And it’s pretty easy to call someone else selfish and dishonest when the matter doesn’t concern you. Anyways, thanks for sharing your opinion!
I think what you did was wrong. You made him jealous and now you’re upset with him because he’s jealous. You haven’t told him how you feel either and you’re pretending to be with another guy. It’s strange how you can’t see how unpleasant that is for him. Just tell him how you feel and ask him how he feels. Then you know. If he then turns out to be possessive, then you split up. You are making everything very complicated when it doesn’t need to be.
That’s what everyone says, “Tell the other person how you feel and everything would be ok.” Well, if it were so easy, we wouldn’t have been just friends for a year. Things get complicated when we least want to. Anyways, thanks for your opinion!
1) Yes
2) Yes
3) Yes
4) Yes
Finish yah school darling. Life is more complicated as you get older.
There are plenty of guys out there
I guess that’s a more sensible thing to do. Thanks for your advice!