What should I do?
So my bf and I have been going out for two years now and we’re getting to that point where we’re comfortable with each other. I love him dearly but there’s a problem. He brought up the conversation of losing weight. This is what he said. ” I know this sounds shallow but I like to spend my life with someone who is slim and petite ad girly. I want to show my girl off. If you’re like the way you are its ok I wont force you to lose weight . But if that’s the case we should just break up. I love you and I fell in love with you cuz of ur personality but for some reason cant love your body sometimes.” now to me this sounds like he’s body shaming me. I’m a petite woman but I’m not too girly and I’m prob 140lbs. When I look in the mirror I feel awful sometimes cuz I’m not like my friends who are skinny. I grew up being chubby. Even if I want to go to the gym I cant cuz I live at home and I can’t leave my grandma alone. I commute to work everyday and usually take me so long to get home. I cant find the time to workout and I can’t diet cuz I’m poor I live off my moms leftovers which is tacos and instant noodles. And sometimes bread. The only thing that’s healthy in my diet is tea! He said he’ll come with me to my gym and pay under my account but he doesn’t sound committed. I dont know what I should do. I love him and losing him would traumatize me forever. Advice would be greatly appreciated!
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Throw that piece of shit to the curb. Nobody who’s in love would threaten to leave their partner of 2 years because their partner isn’t skinny enough at 140! He’s clearly not somebody worth another second of your time.
youve been together two years. try a month of healthy eating and gym. look in the mirror after your first day in the gym, no change. look in the mirror after your second day in the gym, no change. change takes time. give yourself time. give yourself one month.