To:… “My infertility is agonizing.”
You have options. You can adopt. Do you know the problem and the source? Is it a medical issue with you or with him? Are you sure?
You don’t need IVF if you are willing to have a private donor. The donor may want natural insemination or may accept some alternative. For example yesterday someone posted under A First Experience -“It was a successful weekend for sperm donation. Two lesbian couples visited.” You might want to read it.