he has zero relationship skills. zero. every article i read. he’s developmentally stuck in his child, he makes me responsible for how great he feels, he will see me 4/7 days a week (we’re only 5 months in) and get upset because it’s “not enough” he is always on about some ambiguous “more ” I could be doing since he does ~so much for me~ (chea he takes me to dinner a couple of times a month, otherwise he’s dragging me around to all of his boys’ outings because I’m 14 years younger than him, attractive and intelligent.. I’m like a shiny new bezel for his watch, an accessory to his somatic narcissism that he just uses to show off) but when I ask him to be specific he can’t name what I’m NOT doing, and why he ISN’T happy. If we talk on the phone for an hour a day, that’s not enough. I’m an early career engineer, I have mad s*** to learn daily and this man is slowly trying to direct every bit of vitality in my young mind to supplement his collapsed ego. He pretends to be so excited for my career but he does lil s*** to sabotage me all the time. Like I had a meeting with my mentor yesterday in a video conference for a couple of hours. We are on vacation. I have been nursing this man like a damn baby the entire trip and only requested these two hours because I’m interviewing at another company later in the week. He could help but interrupt. Found some nonsense reason to be in the room (we are staying in 10 bedroom airbnb) … It’s a f****** turn off. idk why he started acting like this but it really seems like he doesn’t know who he is, but won’t admit it. He wants to be “so close” and “share everything” but lies to himself? lord jesus make it make sense. His ideal relationship is a codependent one. I’m considering taking a job out of state and pulling the fade away. It’s hard to explain to other women how much suffering it is to be with a smothering, clingy man because most of us are struggling to get ANY intimacy from the men we are with. But dudee…. fr? relax.
