Background
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I am Catholic and newly married. My wife and I signed the marriage certificate at the Registry of Marriage in Aug 2018. However, in the eyes of the Church, we are still unmarried.
I am still a virgin. I never had any form of penetrative s** ever. 2 reasons for this: (1) I am demisexual, and (2) I never met anyone I wanted to have s** with until I met my wife.
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Confession
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I found that intimacy with my wife started decreasing since the start of 2018. While we didn’t have s**, she would reduce the number of times we kissed. Her reason: she isn’t comfortable to kiss in public. However, even in private, she would rarely kiss me.
Personally, it is hurting me as my language of love is touch. In all honesty, she also only filled my love tank once. I feel like I am running on empty every day.
I am afraid that she would deny me s** even after we are married in Church (May 2019), just as she is currently denying me physical affection.
It may be selfish of me to say this but I question if she even desires me physically. I question if it’s because of our Catholic faith that she is abstaining from physical affection from me.
I did talk to her about this more than once but honestly, nothing can be done nor has been done. I never felt so unloved in my life at this time. Her response would be: we cannot as we are not married in Church. I won’t deny you.
Sadly these words just cannot bring me any relief nor comfort. Prayer just seems so blake and painful at the moment.
All Comments
If she’s cutting back kissing you now, it will be the same thing with sex once you are married in the eyes of the church. I would tell her to get back to whatever you were doing before or you won’t marry her. Also, what if she is terrible in bed once you get married? Does she have any sisters who might think differently than your wife does?
Seems unlikely
Man you have been humble and needy enough, time to play a little hard-to-get, don’t be her sex toy, whenever she denies you don’t, whenever she does you do, what is that! If she does not need your intimacy as much as you need her, then the rest of the world is still beautiful.