My mother’s lying has ruined my life. She’s lied about my father, having cancer, where $20,000 I inherited went (her drinking), having degrees she doesn’t have, knowing people she certainly doesn’t know, our family history, my learning disorder, etc. I believed her for so long. I was so proud to tell people my mother was a cancer survivor and now I’m a liar too. She’s trapped me in her lies and now I either have to lie with her or confess to everyone that my family is messed up. Confess to everyone that mother is an alcoholic pathological liar and nothing I thought was true is. I love my mother but she won’t even confess her lies and drinking are serious problems. Everything has fallen apart.
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If it was your inheritance then how did she get it?
You could consider treatment for her drinking and legal action to take control of whatever is remaining.
I trusted her so I let her put it in her bank account since I didn’t have one at the time. I could probably sue if I wanted to but I don’t want to sue my mother.
She’s in complete denial and, unfortunately, already got a DUI and it changed nothing. I don’t think she’ll stop drinking until it kills her. That’s how a lot of my family goes. It’s why I’ll never even take a sip of alcohol.
You may not have to sue, there are other options like having her declared incompetent. Then you act as the decision maker appointed by the court.
I hadn’t thought about that, thank you. I’ll probably just let the money go though. It would be really nice to have but I don’t want to risk my relationship with the little family I have left.
I became ostracized by mine for rejecting extremism and it is one of the best decisions i ever made.