I hate when partners/hookups/whatever comment on my selfharm scars. It makes me feel so much anger, especially if they touch them as they comment. They’re usually trying to be nice, but it just puts me back in the place I was in when I made them and makes me feel shame for something I did years ago. Just because we are sharing an intimate experience doesn’t mean you get full access to my body and my life story. Can’t I just have fun without having to share my trauma?.
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You can’t blame people for asking when it’s something noticeable like that but you can share your feelings about the sensitive topic
Your still mad at yourself . Your scares have exacerbated your anger .Your not mad at them ,you are mad at yourself. Don’t displace that emotion onto someone who doesn’t deserve it.
If I come to you in friendship and offer up my time to be with you..I care .maybe you should try talk to those that ask and you trust. They want to listen to all of it. And probably will offer there support , kindness and love of a friend is one way you can break this cycle.all you do is pour you heart out.that’s what you need to do ….or go see someone who will listen.
A counselor, or pastor