I’ve learned about myself that I crave attention and approval. It’s very unhealthy and destructive. I’ve been with my GF for over 9 years. She is awesome. She is kind, she is crazy good in bed, and very smart. In March I met someone else via a work experience. We started to talk innocently, then it progressed from there. Slowly but surely. My GF confronted caught me in September, but yet forgave me. I, as badly as I wanted to break it off with the other woman, kept talking to her, trying to keep her as a friend. The whole ruse came to head last Sunday. I finally cut it off, and confessed everything. She has a choice to make to forgive me, and I am at her mercy. I hope she does, because I will never do anything like it again. But I do not expect her to. Good news is that I am going to go to counseling to deal with this nagging need to be wanted and seek the approval of others.

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