I want to divorce my husband. I don’t know how to bring it up, I honestly don’t want to hurt his feelings. He expects me to do all the housework, the cleaning, cooking, laundry, while he doesn’t lift a finger. He works less hours than me, but he’d rather come home and sleep and save everything for me to do. He doesn’t respect me. He also changed his mind AFTER we were married about having kids, I want a baby and I’m not getting any younger! I’ve tried for 6 years, nothing has changed. What do I say? I don’t want to hurt his feelings, but I want out.
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Dear Ma’am-
There isn’t any way to break up a relationship without hurting the other person’s feelings. “It’s like pulling a tooth” said an ex-girlfriend when i confessed to her that I’d finally had enough of my wife who wanted a superficial relationship, told me after 10 years she didn’t want children, was a hoarder and an utter slob and liked to have sex once a week, on her back, for 10 minutes, and if I missed my Saturday chance, I’d have to wait til the following Saturday.
My advice to you is move all your shit out and leave a note and don’t tell him where you’re staying for 90 days. Be alone and get your thoughts together, and let him miss you and either do anything to get you back, or let him go and meet someone else. And you, too. PS Do this while you are still young enough to have a baby, and young enough to attract a suitable mate. You’ll find if you divorce that the available men, the ones who no one wanted to marry in their 20s and 30s, are single for a reason – unemployed, alcoholics, obese, depressed, abusive and so on. Good luck, I was where you are 6 years ago and life is beautiful now, though it is sometimes lonely.