I’m getting married next week and I keep thinking about someone else. I love my fiancé but I still think about what it could have been like if I’d given this other man more of a chance than the brief fling we’d had – one that continued on for a bit around the time my fiancé and I just started to get serious. It was intense and feelings were definitely growing, but certain circumstances made it unrealistic to keep going. To make matters worse he’s a friend of my fiancé.
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Don’t get married. You will just end up hurting your fiance and he deserves better than you or his “friend”.
Tell your fiancé the truth. By telling the truth, you will know exactly what to do. You may find hidden deep emotions for your fiancé that you didn’t know existed. Or, you may end up with the other guy. Let go of the fear and trust your instincts. Consider the worst case scenario and usually it’s not as scarlet as you think.
Getting married won’t solve your problem. It will make it worse because you have committed. You will feel more trapped than anything. Unless you can wholeheartedly say there is no-one else but your husband then for your own sake don’t do it.
You will have attraction to more than one person throughout your marriage it would be weird not to. I think also it’s a bit of want what you can’t have. I would not tell your partner as it will only make it hard for him when ever he is around. The other side is it may be a fantasy of his to watch/share you with another man. It certainly spiced up my wife and I sex life.