In a relationship 10 years with a guy who is now my husband.I have never experienced an o***** while he fucks me.I always pretend to have one.
I pretended for so long until we went to a party of his friend.Met a guy there and we had a s***** connection…three days later we had to meet and do it because the urge was so so strong…
I realised that this could really mess me up because he has a very huge c*** n makes me come a lot… so I never saw him again for 2 years..
I accidentally bumped into him after 2 yrs on the street…We hugged each other so tightly and immediately the s***** connection resurfaced…I used to go home to my hubby with lots of love bites on my neck n chest
And whenever he asked I used to say that they are sun burns..at tyms an allergy..showing up to work with scarfs all the tym…
I stopped again because of guilt…
My s** drive is so so much..but my Hubby’s s** drive has never gone up n he doesn’t like being adventurous.He says s** is not so important than love.He is now very comfortable now that we have 2 kids.
He fucks me without foreplay..once he is done am left hanging..I pretend that we are sleeping then I wake up in the middle of the night to touch myself in bathroom..
I think I might find myself back to that guy…what do I do? Is it okay if I tell my hubby that I have been pretending to “come” all this years?
I tried talking to him many tyms on how foreplay is vital to me but he says that its a lot of work..he prefers the shortcut.
Nowadays he gets so tired quickly while having s**..
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In this situation, you are wrong! Not your husband. Then when you have affair with someone else, did you know how much sins you have commit? At least your husband love you. But if you think sex is love, then you don’t know what is the meaning of real love. Tell your husband about your sex drive. Nothing wrong if you try and ask
Av informed him about the drive many times but he says that I shouldn’t be a perv.
He doesn’t seem to understand.I love him.
I don’t love the other guy.The other guy its just sexual
Love is a lot of things, it’s a mix of things and yes. Sex is one of them for a lot of people, it’s still wrong to cheat on your husband, you shouldn’t marry someone you’re not sexually compatible with
Ok, so I’m going to be real honest with you, it seems to me if you do decide to tell him that you’ve been pretending he might shrug it off. It seems to me he’s just happy just getting himself off and not pleasing you. If you do decide to get with the other guy, just divorce him. At the end of the day you have to ask yourself this. Would you rather be in a relationship that you have to keep pretending to enjoy sex and then later finishing the job or would you want to fully be with someone who is willing to put effort to please you.
I love my hubby so much.
The other guy its more of sex.
What exactly should I tell my husband to make things work?
You already said that confessing about pretence will not work…
I read what you said above and would of been nice to put that info in first my answer would have been a little different. Ok, lets pretend that you and I are together right and you love me and I love you whatever, whatever. IF I love you the same way you do, then it wouldn’t be a problem pleasing you. Hell, you wouldn’t have to worry about foreplay period. What I’m trying to say is that he probably doesn’t feel that spark you guys had when you first met. You both may feel the same way about each other but the sexual tension isn’t there anymore…wait. How long have you been pretending? By the way to answer the question, it seems like you hinted to him about pleasing you more and it seems like it’s the same. If he’s not biting and willing to come to some type of agreement then you are better off pleasing yourself than sleeping around if that’s what you want. If you really love him don’t sleep around while your still with him, it won’t end well for you. Like I said just divorce him and find someone that fulfill your needs or just stay there pretending and continuing finishing the job.
No fore play from the beginning..just a few times..I found it strange but assumed that things will get better with time..now its 10 years.
He says he is still very attracted to me.
Lemme just continue pretending..will just buy toys n hide them…
Are you sure that’s what you want? I get it, you want to make him happy, but you shouldn’t have to sacrifice your happiness for someone who’s not willing to make you happy in bed as you do for him. Just something to think about, I hope something does change or you’re going to be pretending for another 10 years.
You need to be blunt with him. Tell him sex and foreplay is important to you and if he doesnt want to, he can get no sex at all. Love is caring for one another and he needs to put as much effort as you do or this happens.
Noted.