So this really close friend of mine confessed he loved me years ago, he knows I don’t feel the same but it’s been years now and he doesn’t seem to have changed his mind, I know he’s incredibly depressed and lonely. I really want to help him but I don’t know what I can do.
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I would say that first of all, you probably enjoyed it. Right? Lets be honest. Second of all, you probably still want to suck his dick right? Lets be honest, you don’t love him, but you sure as heck don’t love the douche bag slob you ended up with for reasons far from looks and sex appeal, probably with stretch marks and a couple kids weighing you down too right?
RULES : You broke it, you can’t fix it. Back off and settle.
I suggest you maybe read the Elite Daily Article entitled “Why The One Who Broke Your Heart Won’t Ever Heal You” it’s common sense. Don’t be such a masochistic cunt. Leave the guy alone. You don’t need closure you need a smack in the head.
I mean, actually I don’t enjoy it at all, hence why I’m asking for advice. I don’t want to suck his dick and I’m not even in another relationship nor do I have kids.
Ok, no relationship or kids. How do you know he’s not changed his mind? No matter what you say either, yeah you do want some and yeah you do enjoy inflicting pain or knowing that it might be because of you. Don’t bullshit me. Also, how do you know he’s hurting because of you, and not just the pain of everything. What makes you think its you specifically. He could just be fucked over what you did but not you specifically.
If you want my advice, I’ll tell you how I would feel from his perspective. First of all, I hate you. I hate you, and anybody you would call a friend. Second of all and the worst part about it, is you want it and it would irrate the fuck out of me that you would use pity towards me as a disguise, considering what a piece of crap you were towards me.
I would fuck you off. Why? Because if you read that article I mentioned the bottom line no matter what your intentions the trust is gone and probably not coming back.
You helped break whatever it is that you think is broken, maybe not all you, but it means you can’t do anything to fix whatever his problem is. He actually doesn’t want anything from you. He has likely accepted that hes a different person as a result of life and people, and there is nothing anyone can do. We all make mistakes. Maybe some day he’ll find or stumble into what he needs to make him better than he is currently, not that he isn’t alright or better than what it was, just something to make things a bit better. Maybe not either way, who cares? We all die some day and none of it matters then right? You’re not around to care what happened when you were alive and nothing you did matters.
Ill tell you to accept what ever you did to lose this person you obviously still love and regret fucking over, stay clear, and learn to live without him. Learn from your regret and accept your loss
Don’t be such a cunt
Also, I don’t know if you 2 are talking or anything, but the true test is if he contacts you. If he’s not talking, he doesn’t need you for anything
For me, and the bitch I knew has no way of getting in contact with me and I have one single email account of hers, so I own the control there. That’s power.
All she needs to know as far as my feelings go is if I wanted to talk to her, I would. But I don’t and never will again. That belongs to me.
Look, I think you’re taking this a bit to personally? Me and him are still close friends and talk regularly. I know he still likes me because he tells me whenever we talk. I don’t love him and never have, and I’ve never done anything to him that I “regret”. I’m just looking out for him as a friend since he seemed down and I wondered if me being around was making the situation worse for him.
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First of all try to rethink about your feelings for him, if they changed to a good way (I mean if you also feel something for him) then go ahead, feeling lonely isn’t a good thing seriously. If you don’t then just try to be really close to him, get worry about him and stuff, I am zure he wouldn’t feel lonely that much.