I have struggled with s** addiction for many years, and about 2 years ago I got involved in a very healthy romantic relationship. Every now and then my s** addiction comes up, like when she goes out of town I’ll look at p*** and have p********. Other than that all I do is rarely sneak peaks at p***/instagram and it doesn’t go any further than than. A few weeks ago though, I had this crazy notion that I needed a back massage, and after trying to get in at a couple of sports massage clinics, I eventually ended up at a drop-in Asian massage parlor. I wasn’t expecting a happy ending, but it just happened. I don’t want to tell her about it as it just happened this once, but it is haunting me a little bit. I have a therapist that just I see, and I’m considering talking to the therapist about it, but am still terrified. I really don’t want to ruin the trust I have with my partner, and feel that if I don’t do it again that I’ll be fine with that. I’m also in a recovery program and one of the guidelines is that when you do something wrong, you makes amends, unless it will injure them. So according to that I am okay not telling my girlfriend about, but still feel the need to confess it nonetheless. I’m also wondering what others might think about this so I’m sharing my confession anonymously.
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I can barely get a boner up to jerk off twice a week. To me you’re weak willed, but who am I to judge?
Yes I definitely had a moment of what you might call weakness; we all have those moments. My addiction comes out in weird ways sometimes, and is a very strong part of my personality, which I’m working on constantly. But yes, I did have a moment of weakness.
Your addiction is not to be taken lightly.
In Fighting it , you should come clean w your gf,of every indiscretion.If this is too much .There are anonymous groups out there for all kind of addictions.
Get someone who you can confide in and admit all to.
I personally would not tell her of this, but start anew.
Tell her of all your …everything. Put it all in past perspective since that’s were it is now. Tell her you need her help, in your fight. If your adamant about getting over this. She will stand w you.just be true
to her..Tell her you need a safe place no matter how bad your thought. She need to be it.it’s best for your relationship.especially if you think this is the one.
Fight for it.fight hard
Thank you for these words. I really appreciate it. I like the idea of telling her everything from a perspective of the past. I also appreciate you reminding me that addiction is not to be taken lightly; I do that sometimes at my own peril. I do have a sponsor in AA that might be a good person to talk to this about.
if it was just one time, i wouldnt tell her, if she knows about your therapy. Its fine. Dont to get worked up over it.
Okay. Thanks for these words as this is bothering me.
Try and stay on the straight and narrow. Stay safe and don’t put her at risk (that said, getting a handy is very low on the scale). Everybody fucks up and sex drive is something our society does not cope with well regardless of millions of years of evolution to the contrary. Not that we collectively have to accept every indiscretion but neither should all be elevated to a major felony.