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I always saw women in my family get hit by their partners. I would tell them ‘Leave them, if it happens once it will happen again’. I always told myself that I would never stay with a person that hit me. On my birthday on Friday, my boyfriend hit me. And I haven’t left. I could make a hundred different justifications for why I stay but it comes down to the fact that I love him and would rather he hit me than live life without him. I know I am stupid, I know there is something wrong with me. But I just can’t help feeling this way.

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  • There is clearly something wrong with you but it doesn’t have to stay wrong. Look online for help. It’s out there and probably only a text or call away. You can learn to love in a healthy way. This guy is not helping. Good luck.

    Anonymous November 4, 2018 7:50 pm Reply
  • You got used to seeing this happening to women. You got used to abusive personality traits. The only thing that’s wrong with you is that you’ve been conditioned into a loss of perspective.
    You don’t need him.
    Leave. I’m serious.
    Leave right now before you get married or have a child. Leave before he hits regularly and you realize there’s a pattern but you stay for the times when it isn’t unbearable.
    If you don’t leave him I can tell you what kind happen. You’ll end up staying and justifying it to yourself every time, or freezing and holding your breath because you know soon you’ll both act like it never happened and you just want “him” back and everything back to normal. But it won’t be normal. It’ll happen more and more often and you’ll keep pretending it’d okay and deluding yourself.
    It’s like a drug and soon the reason you’ll be with him won’t be because of love or enjoyment but because you’ll have Stockholm syndrome.
    Trust me.
    Please leave him. Call your friends and family. Stay with them for a while if you can.
    Leave before there are children or shared bank accounts to sort out. Leave before he starts isolating you.
    Now is your one chance. Take it. Take it. Please.
    Don’t become a statistic. Live your life.
    Good luck. Be strong. You’ll meet somebody else with the things you love about this guy.
    If you have to just temporarily split up because you refuse to be abused and tell him to seek counseling. But you can’t be with an abusive person.
    You can’t.
    Either you leave and never go back or you leave and tell him to contact you when he’s sorted his shit out. At least 6 months to a year of quality therapy.

    Anonymous November 4, 2018 9:26 pm Reply

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