im an 18 year old lesbian I met this girl who I thought was the one. I’ve never thought I would feel this way about someone until I met her. little did I know things would end up like this. when I first met her it was at school (high school). we were both in this club called glas (gay lesbian and straight) we were making a float for a parade we were having at our school. I never really talked to the girl but that day I did and it was like ive known her forever. we got along so well. we started talking and I ended up being in another school club with her. we hung out a lot I knew she liked me and one day she kissed me. it was my first real kiss. it was the best thing I had ever felt. the bed thing is that at the time she had a gf and she cheated in her with me. but after a few days she broke up with her gf and got with me. but she would always talk about other girls. at first I thought it was just to get me jealous but then it really started to bother me. we broke up and she wanted to be friends. I told her we couldn’t because I was in love with her and I can’t be friends with someone im in love with so we had to stop talking. but when I told her that she began to cry and tell me she couldn’t be with out be without me. she confused me so much. she didn’t want to go out with me but she didn’t me to leave because she loved me. it made no sense. we hung out all day every day. I was madly in love. she told me her secrets and I told her mine. we knew everything about each other. one day she got another gf. her gf lived in Vegas and when she when to go she her she sent me a picture of her eating her gf out. when I saw that picture I felt my heart drop. my world crumbled around me. I told her never to talk to me again and I blocked her from everything. a few days later I found out she had tried to commit suicide. she broke my heart beyond repair. i told her i would get over it but its been a while now and im still extremely hurt and don’t know what to do.
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This is a terrible situation you are in. And there is no right answer for this. What would be best for you is to try and stay clear of her because she seems to be very toxic to you and your happiness. But this will mess with your conscience because you recognize her dependence upon you and you still do care deeply for her. What I do with people like this is to remain a distanced friend or acquaintance. This allows you to keep tabs on her and make sure she is ok and not have her feel abandoned by you. But you do this all at a distance so there is less drama and she doesn’t have as much of an effect on you.