i moved to a south korea 6 months ago and wanted to make friends, so i met up with a guy from a language exchange app a few weeks after arriving here. i got really drunk? i guess? the drinking culture here is ridiculous and the last thing i remember is playing some dumb drinking game. i woke up with all of my clothes off in some love hotel with him and i was still drunk and really disoriented and he forced me to s*** him off. i can’t remember a single thing. i don’t know what else he did to me or if i’m a virgin anymore. this a****** even charged both the dinner/drinks and hotel to MY credit card so i was left literally paying for being s******* assaulted. he blocked me on the messaging app when i asked if we had s** and if so whether he used a condom. i ended up getting emergency contraception which is really not a fun experience in this country. my cycle was really messed up for a long time, which i expected, but for a few months i was terrified of the potential of me being pregnant even though i took emergency contraception. abortions are illegal here and at 23 i’m not ready for a child. i had to look into what my options were and almost bought the abortion pill from an online women’s resource site because i was so terrified. i didn’t report this guy and only two of my coworkers know it happened and they just know i potentially unprotected s**. i didn’t tell them the rest. i don’t think about it much anymore, but sometimes i get flashes of it, like his voice or something, and it brings me to the verge of tears. i’m not experienced with s** and have never done anything more than kissing. i’m so scared that when i find someone i want to have s** with i’m going to think of this and break down. i stopped using that app after that even though i know there are good people i could meet through it too. i’m on tinder too and some guys seem nice but i’m afraid to meet with them now. i know better than to drink with them so this cant happen again, but i’m still so scared.
