i met a guy recently and we were in touch for about 4 month…when i first met him i thought his got a very strong personality… we went out a few times and he kept ignoring me he used to call me once every 2 or 3 weeks …. i knew he was the type of guy who wants to hit and run…he has alot going on for him…everytime we meet he never used to make me feel good about my self once he said am not ready for a relationship or even get married lets just keep it light and date casualy, he used to say the most hurtfull things to me..untill after 3 month of leading me on he said by the way i have to have an arranged marriage….he said ur an amazing girl and thousand guys would wish to be with u…day by day i kept having strong feelings for him and getting attached….how could i ever be in love with a total jerk and hurtfull person..he never cared about me never realy cared to call or even pick me up…untill one night i gave in to him and i started showing him how i feel that was 4 month when he finaly got what he wanted from me…he was travelling and came back and never thought of calling me untill i called him and that was the end of it he had the coldest tone with me how he cant provide me the relationship i deserve and that his going tomorrow to travel and have an arranged marriage again he said what do u want from with me any man would wish to be with you….for 4 month he treated me so bad and said the most hurtfull things to me i was sooo hurt and wanted my ravange i wrote all over his wall on facebook about where his going and that he has no personality and controled by his parents..it was wrong from me to even think for one second to speak to him all this time..he was angry turned it all around and made it look like its all my fault and told me not to contact him again…i was CRUSHED ….i felt rejected i felt i was nothing to him..i never thought of doing the facebook think but it was just out of being hurt and it was a reaction to all the things he was saying and doing to me the whole time…. i never felt soo hurt i know my mistake was i shouldnt have fell for such hurtfull and heartless person.
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He is a scumbag, and the only reason you put up with him is because something is wrong with you. You need to pinpoint what it is that is wrong in you.
I had SOMEWHAT similar experience few months back. I had just left university and felt my life was over, and he walks in and I thought he was the oxygen mask that will keep me alive and grasping to life. I felt this way despite the fact that he was decietful pathological liar that would do anything to try and put me down.
Now that am trying to restart my life, I have managed to let him go (but I still miss him) and find another man.
But yea my point is, you knew he was a douchebag, he did not hide it, so why the fuck did you let him mess with you. Something is wrong with you sweetie and you need to fix it.
i was totaly in love with him ….ut yes your right something is wrong and i gotta fix it..
why do i still think of you…i feel soo used, i dint deserve to be left here hurt…how can i get him out of my mind…
Yea its hard, am the same person who replied to you the 1st time. Even I can’t get my douchebag out of my head. Still use the fact that he is constantly in your head to your advantage, use it to ensure you never fall in the same trap again!
i just wish if i dint act with such anger and wrote allover his facebook look like a loser infront of his friends, i made him mad hate me to the point of no return i know he deserves it he hurt me real bad, but the question is if i havent done that would he be back…they all tell me never because even if i said nothing to him he wouldnt have stayed with me….i heard his engaged now to a girl his mom picked for him….
maybe i thing a bout him day and night cause i have no one in my life..
am worth more than this and i deserve the best i never deserved this from him….
i know its wrong to think of him for even one second cause his not worth it…
its nice to hear back from you girl ….. wish you the best
Yea he isn’t, put yourself out there, so you can find someone else who is willing to love you & treat you right.
And work on your self confidence, and keep yourself occupied as often as you can.
Get a hobby, purpose, anything!
MOST important of all, the next time you go out on a bad 1st date, don’t fucking go out on a 2nd! Its that simple (unless there is really good excuse for the bad 1st date)!!
#6 wish I could say the same for you, but unlike you am not a liar :), so I’d rather not.
the same guy has contacted me and said his deeply sorry and he wanted a chance to fix it and be friends again…i donno what to do… does he even deserve my friendship ??? can we realy be friends knowing that i love him …me knowing that his angaged is already killing me ??
How’s he going to fix it?
He just wants to play you 1 more time.
Anyhow you do what feels right.
but the funny part is, why is he apologising now and his already engaged why does he wanna be my friend all over sudden …
he wants to see me for coffee i said ok and now he dint reply to be on when he wants to see me for coffee.. dafinatly i dont want him to play me again
should i msg him again and tell him i dont wanna go for coffee in case he doesnt reply back or i should leave it at that and not txt him again ?
am just lost i just need someone to tell me listen girl this is what you gotta do and this is what you gotta tell him
the funny part is, why is he apologising now although his already engaged, why does he wanna be my friend all over sudden ?? i donno if he realy wants to be friend or he just wants to have me on the side for his fun time? what cause he thinks am hurt i realy dont need his charity
i dafinatly dont wanna allow him to play me again, by the way he wants to see me for coffe so i asked him when and where he never replyed what a jerk …
do u think i should msg him and tell him i dont wanna see him for coffee or do you think i shouldnt msg at all and just leave it as that…
am just lost i just wanted someone to tell me listen girl this is what you should do and this is what you should say..
sometimes i wonder does he even deserve my friendsgip
Tell him “listen & listen well, I don’t have time for your silly games, so fuck off, & never think of contacting me again”. Here! I just composed your text message! Just copy/paste, & then delete his phone from your contact list & call list, so you don’t get tempted to go down that road again.
looool thanks for your reply, guess what i did copy and paste it he went crazy , his like why but we can be friends …..so he called me his like thank you for answering my call but you are so abusive with me your always angry and then his like if i dint call you today i bet all my money you would dafinatly txt me someday any ways so his like can i please see you on friday am like sure… i just want him to burn the phone on friday and am just gonna look at my phone and smile… if he realy wanted to fix things he wouldnt have said this on the phone cause now his sure a 100% i will always be there..
but he doesnt know what his gonna expect tomorrow am never gonna answer his call in my life again and show him i can live with out him …am happy cause am getting stronger..i have deleted all his messages and deleted his number too…
for the plan to go will i just need him to call me on friday ( which is tomorrow) to meet as planned and he will never hear from me again i wouldnt wanna hurt him but hey he deserves every bit of it 🙂
he dint call me until friday evening at around 10 pm he called me first and i dint pick up the phone and then in the next 2 minutes i received a txt from him saying sorry i got stuck at home with relatives there traveling tomorrow can we meet tomorrow ??
as mush as i feel for him i dint even reply back to his call or txt and he dint try again i wonder whats going through his mind but i was strong enough to ignore him ! i guess its a good start
i keep running and running after him…i cant stop calling him i cant stop thinking about him…am lossing soo much weight, i dint even go to work today, i dont even sleep, i havent eaten for days… its like i dont wanna do anything anymore….his sucking the life out of me…am sad am losing my self… i love him sooo much i donno why…he said i swear if you ever send me any nasty msgs again i promise you, you will never see my face again….his living his life normally…
it hurts soo much….am out of control his like a drug to me….. why am i stuck !!