Caught my 12 year old daughter smoking last Saturday night – told her she was grounded
She called me a hypocrite because I’ve been a smoker for over 20+ years and said it’s not fair
I feel guilty because I know she’s right. I’ve had sole custody of her since not long after she was born when I was 25, her mom lives in NYC but never sees her. We’ve been close her whole life
I blame myself. Not only have I been a smoker – until I tried to quit two years ago when I got my girlfriend at the time pregnant – but honesty, All my girlfriends and ex girlfriends have been heavy smokers like me
We’ve always smoked in the house and car and really everywhere – I’ve probably smoked two or three packs a day my daughter’s whole life, and every woman I’ve ever dated has been a chain smoker like me – I have often worked in bars and tended to date other women who worked in bars where everyone working there smoked all the time –
so she’s grown up around nothing with smokers her whole life, me and whatever woman I was dating at the time or living with at the time –
my daughter has so much second hand smoke exposure even when she got diagnosed asthma In elementary school I didn’t quit – I just kept on smoking
I try to tell my daughter not to become addicted to cigarettes like me
But I’m too late